 Dear Madame,
My husband with whom I've been married to for one year wants four kids and wants to start with the first one right away. However, I've decided that I don't want any. How do i break it to him? I know he will be totally devastated because I wanted kids in the beginning.
Signed,
Changed my mind in the 7th
Dear Changed your mind,
Whether or not to have children is what we call an "essential to the
marriage." In layman's terms: it can make or break a marriage. You
break it to him by being completely honest, something that you should
have done in the beginning. You had to have an inclination that you
didn't find little bundles of joy quite so joyous? The sooner you tell
your husband, the easier (not really) it will be for him to find a
compatible mate.
Dear Madame,
I want to look sexy for my boyfriend who is obsessed with strings and thongs. The problem is I detest them. Any ideas on how I can please him and be happy too?
Signed,
Unhappy at Versailles
Dear Unhappy,
Strings and thongs? You're lucky. Can I get someone with a real
problem??? Look, you don't have to wear strings or thongs every day.
Just be considerate. In every relationship, one has to make small
sacrifices. Your small sacrifice, literally, will have to be an
occasional thong.
Dear Madame,
One of my girlfriends said that after you're in a couple for one year you should start using sex toys to liven up the relationship so that your man doesn't get bored. Have you ever heard this theory?
Signed,
Just wondering
Dear Just wondering,
Yes, I have heard this theory, but it is not the case in most
instances. Every relationship is different, and it truly depends on
the individuals involved. Better than sex toys, a couple should
continue to grow and develop together emotionally. Sex toys are just
that, toys. You'll need more than sexual stimulation if you want to
sustain a quality relationship.
Dear Madame,
I'm French and my wife, whom I met while we were both living and working in London, is British. We got married and moved to Paris about four months ago. Now, our finances are a little tight because she wants to go back to the UK every other weekend. At first it was fun, but now, it's starting to add up.
I appreciate the fact that she gets homesick, but am I right in saying she should learn to live our new life in France?
Signed,
Fed up
Dear Fed up,
You're mistaken. You sanctioned these trips in the beginning, and now
you must try to reach an amiable compromise. Try putting yourself in
her position. Be considerate, and just know that the trips to London
will soon take their toll on your working wife as well. It's only been
four months, and I suggest that you give it a little more time. You've
asked your wife to make a huge sacrifice, and you must now allow her to
make the transition at her own pace. That's what we do for people we
love.
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