 Dear Madame,
I really love my boyfriend but I cheated on him last week while vacationing here in the South of France. To make matters worse, it's someone my boyfriend knows and I am scared to death that when we get back to Paris he will spill the beans. Should I go ahead and 'fess up now to my drunken mistake or just pray for the best?
Signed,
"Feelin´ like a ho" in Marseille
Dear FLAHIM,
You have found yourself in quite a pickle. First, things not to do while on vacation; leave boyfriend at home, cheat on him in his abscence, cheat on him with someone he knows, cheat on him because you were drunk. 'Fess up now and, yes, PRAY.
Dear Madame,
I´m in my early forty's and I've been married twice already (not back to back). The two were Americans. Now my French boyfriend just asked me to marry him. This of course would be my third marriage, and his first. I was raised in a religious environment and I do believe in the marriage tradition even though I was unlucky in the first two. But do I become that girl who's been married three times? The next Elizabeth Taylor? Or do I forget all of that and the talk of my friends and family, and follow my heart and marry this great French guy who doesn't care that I have already walked down the ailse and that I truly love and want to spend the rest of my life with?
Signed,
Jittery Girl in the 6th
Dear Jittery,
You have just answered your own question. Don't forget about your past as you may have learned some valuable lessons you can apply to this relationship. However, do not dwell on the end of two other marriages and the "talk" of others. Live, be happy, marry the one you "truly love".
Dear Madame,
I'm French and my Franco-Russian fiancee is 24 and ten years younger than I am. We have been happy together for the past 18 months. She wants to marry me but I'm wondering if she is ready for that. I am scared that one day she will wake up and decide she hasn't "lived" enough, even though she acts very stable and swares she is ready for a higher committment. Am I right to be leery or am I creating problems that are not there?
Signed,
Worried Frenchman
Dear Worried,
Maybe there is something you see that causes you to question her readiness for marriage? However, if you are just creating elements of despair for yourself then stop it. You are allowed to have an amazing fiancee of -10 years and have her be a stable being. Be careful how you discuss this with her. You don't want to be condescending and you don't want to make her plead her case for loving you.
Dear Madame,
Is it ok to dump someone by text message?
Signed,
a coward in the 15th
Dear Coward,
WHAT? Is there now a spine removal process I don't know about? Well, have yours reversed and carry on with the verbal dump. Unless you fear for your life and are in hiding don't think the dumpee wont want a verbal explanation anyway. I don't think you will get out of it that easy.
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