Dear Madame,

I'm an American girl from the Texas. I've been dating a Frenchman here in Paris who doesn't believe in the institution of marriage. He agrees to have children and buy an apartment together, but that's it. I was raised in a Christian family and my father is a minister. They will never accept this.

I love my boyfriend very much and we've been together for three years. I don't doubt his committment, but what should I do?

Signed,
Texas Gal

Dear Texas Gal,

First of all you knew beforehand he did not believe in the institution of marriage yet you chose to pursue a relationship with him anyway. Keep in mind that a piece of paper makes it legal love whereas a life shared together makes it an art of love.

As for your family, you are an adult and have to make your own way in life without reaping the guilt of others. Your family will either support you or condemn you but it is up to you to figure out to what length you are willing to commit to this man and what you are willing to endure from your family's disappointment.

Dear Madame,

My very best friend back who lives in the States suspects that I'm bisexual. I almost came out and told her once. However, she's such a prude and old fashioned in every way that I don't want to tell her. Am I wrong for keeping it from her?

Signed,
Girl lover in the 3rd

Dear Girl Lover,

It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not. Friendship should come without conditions. Think of this. If she already suspects you are bisexual and she still calls herself your friend you may luck out in keeping her as a friend after telling her. If she is opposed to your life choice the only harm that can be done by telling her is you losing one narrow minded indivual in your life.

Dear Madame,

My girlfriend is getting text messages late at night. In my mind, that can only mean one thing, and it's not good. I asked her about it and she stuttered something about a friend needing her. Any thoughts?

Signed,

Suspicious in Nanterre

Dear Suspicious,

A serious conversation needs to be had. If you have any suspicions or doubts they will only grow unless you confront her in a non hostile manner with your concerns. Your girlfriend's reaction will either be innocent and offended or guilty and combative. Either way your mental anguish will dissipate.

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