I?m American and my boyfriend is French. I?m on the pill so he wants to skip the condom. We?re exclusive but it still worries me not to use them. At what point can we throw out the Durex? He thinks I don?t trust him, but it has nothing to do with it.

Signed,

Condom Lover

Dear Condom Lover,

First rule of sex, if it ain?t good, don?t do it. If you feel better using the condoms, then your boyfriend should understand. Let him know it has nothing to do with trust issues, but rather it?s for your piece of mind. Throw out the condoms only when we you feel comfortable.

Dear Madame,

My boyfriend asks me for sex all the time. His sex drive is more than I can handle. He asks for it every single day and sometimes twice a day. I'm afraid that if I keep saying no he's going to go elsewhere or leave me completely. What should I do? He thinks I don't love him anymore.

Signed,

Low Libido

Dear Low Libido,

You need to talk to your boyfriend about it and tell him that just because you're not always in the mood it doesn't mean you don't love or want him. Also you can find other things to do to take his mind off sex: exercise, movies, restaurants. And then when he does wnat sex, you could participate by "helping him" and practicing different things without the actual penetration. You get what we're saying? Sometimes that could you get into the mood for more too. No matter what, it's like Madame always says, communication is the key.

Dear Madame,

My new boyfriend's penis is way too big for me. The first time we tried to have sex we didn't have lubricant and it wouldn't go in. Now I'm terrified and nervous and don't want to try it anymore!

Signed,

Scared in the 15th

Dear Scared,

You won't believe me, but I'm sure there are a lot of women who would love to have this problem. Don't be scared! Get to the pharmacy and ask for a miracle product called sensilube. You won't need a perscription but most doctors recommend this as a lubricant. It's much better than k-y jelly and you'll be happy and suprised by the results. Otherwise, put on some music, light some candles, try to relax and enjoy. P.S. Tell him he's huge and to be gentle. He'll love the compliment.

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