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Dear Madame,
My French girlfriend keeps trying to change my hair! I wear
it in a short military style because I used to be in the military
and I rather like it. She says I look cute, but that I'd look hotter with it longer, much longer. I'm talking bangs. I told her that's out of the
question. I'm not French and besides, I've always considered long hair
to be ugly on guys and rather feminine. How can I get her to stop this nagging request?
Signed,
Buzz cut
Dear Buzz,
I'm guessing that you had your hair like that when you guys met.
It's common for people to try to influence or change their lovers a
bit, be it hair or clothes or style. The important thing to remember is
that you have to live life for you,in your way. Sure you could try it
just to please her, but only if you yourself would be happy, because
honey, if you are not, then it will show and nobody will be
happy. Even Paris Hilton herself said that sexiness is all about being
confidant. It doesn't sound like you'd have much confidence walking
around with a mane like Tarzan. Explain this to your girlfriend. Maybe
put a wig on in the bedroom for a night and see if that won't keep her
quiet. Other than communication, it's all about compromise, compromise,
compromise.
Dear Madame,
My girlfriend just accused me of having a crush on her best friend. I
have no idea where she got this ridiculous notion and I'm trying to
convince her otherwise. Any advice?
Signed,
Innoncent in the 7th
Dear Innocent,
Where on earth could your girlfriend have gotten that "ridiculous
notion?" Do you have any idea? Have you asked your girlfriend why she
feels like you have designs on her best friend? My advice would be to
start there. Maybe she saw heard an innocent laugh coming from you two?
Maybe she caught you staring at her best friend's ass? Who knows? But
you'd better try to find out quickly, and then go from there. Remember
what we always say? Communication, communication, communication! Write
us back after you get done with that step.
Dear Madame,
We're Americans living in France. My kids and I were wondering if we should celebrate Mother's Day here on June 3 or this month in May like back in the States? If we wait until June maybe my wife will think we forgot.
Signed,
Confused with the holidays
Dear Confused,
Why not celebrate twice? Sometimes Mother's Day in France falls on the same day as the U.S. but often it does not. Same with Father's Day. If it's a surprise you're aiming for, I'd suggest celebrating the U.S. date because it is first, so your wife won't feel forgotten or ignored. Then take that time to ask her how you want to handle future dates like that. Celebrate Both? The American date? Only the French one? There are many things to consider when living in France and this is one of them, but once you make a few mutual decisions, it's all good.
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