Dear Madame,

My husband with whom I've been married to for one year wants four kids and wants to start with the first one right away. However, I've decided that I don't want any. How do i break it to him? I know he will be totally devastated because I wanted kids in the beginning.

Signed,

Changed my mind in the 7th

Dear Changed your mind,

Whether or not to have children is what we call an "essential to the marriage." In layman's terms: it can make or break a marriage. You break it to him by being completely honest, something that you should have done in the beginning. You had to have an inclination that you didn't find little bundles of joy quite so joyous? The sooner you tell your husband, the easier (not really) it will be for him to find a compatible mate.

Dear Madame,

I want to look sexy for my boyfriend who is obsessed with strings and thongs. The problem is I detest them. Any ideas on how I can please him and be happy too?

Signed,

Unhappy at Versailles

Dear Unhappy,

Strings and thongs? You're lucky. Can I get someone with a real problem??? Look, you don't have to wear strings or thongs every day. Just be considerate. In every relationship, one has to make small sacrifices. Your small sacrifice, literally, will have to be an occasional thong.

Dear Madame,

One of my girlfriends said that after you're in a couple for one year you should start using sex toys to liven up the relationship so that your man doesn't get bored. Have you ever heard this theory?

Signed,

Just wondering

Dear Just wondering,

Yes, I have heard this theory, but it is not the case in most instances. Every relationship is different, and it truly depends on the individuals involved. Better than sex toys, a couple should continue to grow and develop together emotionally. Sex toys are just that, toys. You'll need more than sexual stimulation if you want to sustain a quality relationship.

Dear Madame,

I'm French and my wife, whom I met while we were both living and working in London, is British. We got married and moved to Paris about four months ago. Now, our finances are a little tight because she wants to go back to the UK every other weekend. At first it was fun, but now, it's starting to add up.
I appreciate the fact that she gets homesick, but am I right in saying she should learn to live our new life in France?

Signed,

Fed up

Dear Fed up,

You're mistaken. You sanctioned these trips in the beginning, and now you must try to reach an amiable compromise. Try putting yourself in her position. Be considerate, and just know that the trips to London will soon take their toll on your working wife as well. It's only been four months, and I suggest that you give it a little more time. You've asked your wife to make a huge sacrifice, and you must now allow her to make the transition at her own pace. That's what we do for people we love.

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